Mom Confessions- It's ok to admit you're not ok
Today, after excessive screaming and mood swings from my little guy, my husband looked at me and asked, "Are you ok? Little man driving you crazy?"
I say something like "I'm managing; he's just being moody", or just say "I'm fine". All of which he knows isn't so because it's written all over my face.
For some odd reason, I struggle to openly admit when I'm overwhelmed, stressed, annoyed or have any negative emotion toward my little guy.
Every parent wants to and tries to love their child(ren) unconditionally. As a mom, I personally feel like we're built to manage these situations and shouldn't complain about it because babies will be babies. They can't process and communicate their feelings yet so 'acting up' is sometimes their only option if the issue isn't identified early.
The obvious answer would be "YESSSS!! He's driving me up the wall!" But for some reason I couldn't say that. Not that I couldn't physically say it, but anytime he asks questions like this I don't openly admit it.
However, despite that belief, it's also important to be honest about our feelings and communicate what's bothering us. That way our partners know how best to support us, and also when they should step in to take over for a while to give us a break.
It's never healthy to hold these feelings since it can affect your mental health, your relationship with your partner, and even your relationship with your child.
Remember mom, aside from being supermom, YOU'RE A REGULAR HUMAN BEING! We experience all the same emotions as everyone else, so it's ok to feel upset, annoyed, stressed or angered by your child.
The main thing that matters is HOW YOU HANDLE IT and HOW YOU RESPOND.